Sunday, September 20, 2015

To Grow Into SomeOne

Our English teacher at school always said that a good character is one which evolves over the course of the story. The experiences that the character goes through defines and re-defines who he or she is.

When we enter the world stage, we are like blank slates. It is our experience that finally defines who we are. Without our experiences we are poorly constructed characters who add but little value to the play.

Are you a fan of FRIENDS? 
Yes? Then you must have had watched it over a zillion times and it must have brought a smile onto your face every one of those zillion times. 
In this much loved sitcom, all the characters grow... I am not too sure about Joey though. But yes, mostly, they all grow. 
The Rachel we see right at the beginning of the series: A runaway bride. Daddy's darling. Cannot imagine life without her Dad's credit cards. 
And then the Rachel we see in season 10: Independent, confident, career oriented. A single mother. About to move to Paris all by herself.
Look at Monica and Chandler. They grew as individuals and only then did they find love in each other.
That, my dear friends, is evolution of characters.

So, tell me, haaaaaave you seen How I Met Your Mother? *read that in Barney style "Haaaave you met Ted" *
Its another classic example of evolution of characters. Ted, though forever stuck on Robin, eventually finds the Mother of his kids. And, as he himself says, it took him so long because he needed to become the person he finally became to find the right find the woman.

Its true. 100% true.
We change and we keep changing. We retain some basic characteristics, but overall, we change. For better or worse or whatever...but we change. The more we change the better our play on the stage becomes. And sometimes we do need to grow into the person who we are meant to be so that we can find the person who grew into the person we were meant to be with.

I don't know if the universe works that way...conspiring to make us find our better half. I, honestly, am not a believer in the Universe and its Plans. But yes, practically speaking, we sometimes just grow into each other and that is when love happens.

That is what they mean when they say that there is a right time for everything. the right time comes when you are ready to meet this other person. 
The right time is when you have grown into the person who is in sync with the person who are about to meet. 
The right time is when you will be loved for being the person you are...and for a thousand other reasons that your significant other can list out for you.

Had you met the same person years ago, maybe you would have never clicked. Simply because you were both different then. Maybe he had always liked Beatles and at that time you used to think they were insects. And then you figured who they really are and started loving them just as much! And met.
See what I mean.

If you  pause here a minute and think about it, you would realise how beautiful this is.

In the same way there is right time for everything else. Maybe you couldn't land your dream job earlier but now you do. Not because it was suddenly easy to get through the interview. But, because now you have a little more experience and you are more suited for the job.

So, as you see, life is all about the experiences you gather. The more the merrier.
You will fumble...stumble...make mistakes...soar to the heights of success...make some stupid choices...maybe you would get your eyebrow pierced and then regret it (just saying!)... but then all of that made you the super duper awesome person you finally became. 

Life is about've got the set your sight high on the awesomeness chart and yeah...someone is waiting for you up there...and that person is just as awesome as you are!

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Mid-Twenties Crisis

A personal note, less of a blog post.
I am writing all of this down and I plan to read this a couple of years later to see where I stand.

I am 26. The question that has been plaguing my mind is...
What is growing up all about?

Having a stable job. Earning well. Being independent. Getting married. Owning a place of your own. A car too maybe. Inviting friends over for lunch or dinner parties and asking them to bring their plus one along. Is that it?

What about this...
Having a stable job. Earning well. Being independent. Hanging out with friends. Planning an occasional all-nighter with your girl besties. Maybe a get together with friends over drinks (all sorts) and good food. Maybe a pot-luck. Maybe a three day long horror movie marathon with closest buddies and pizza. Maybe a few trips thrown in...with friends or alone.

Is that not being grown up enough?

This seems to a crossroad. Stuck on the other side of 25 and not wanting to opt for the road that makes you a serious grown up.

Then there is this eternal fear of not having a plus one for your married friend's dinner party. How weird would that be!

People coming off age...and settling down left right and centre. As if that is all life is about.

Could you not "settle down" with someone who wants the same unsettling things that you want? That would be perfect amalgamation of growing up and yet being happy.

Or maybe that is too far-stretched. We are all doomed to die as boring people who grew up and got serious.

Is this the mid-twenties crisis?

Warmth and high

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